Vulnerability

We like the idea of vulnerability. It sounds like a good plan and something we should probably embrace, but alas, it is almost always harder than we imagine.

The biggest struggle with vulnerability is we see it as a weakness in ourselves but like a moth to the flame, we are drawn to those who are.

Vulnerability is about being seen. It’s hard and when we are motivated by the fear of what others think of us, it’s tough to show up and live bravely. We smile on the outside and tremble on the inside. We are afraid of being known. We wonder if we are good enough, beautiful enough or successful enough. Do we matter?

Taking Chances

When we are vulnerable we take chances. We choose to be authentic and invite others into our story. We become willing to let go of who we think we should be and step into a different way of living.

If I had plans to meet you for coffee or work on a project, unless I’m flat out sick in bed, I will be there. I won’t let you down, but if the commitment is only to myself and you are not in the mix….there is a good chance I won’t show up.   

Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. One person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble.  Ecclesiastes 4: 9-10

Being Connected

It’s human nature to long for connection. God created man in His own image and said it was not good for him to be alone. He chose to place Adam in a family. It wasn’t easy for them and the struggle for mankind to live well in relationship continues today. 

Connection is a risk. We are allowing ourselves to be deeply seen with no guarantee of being loved back. It is hard and terrifying, but so is the alternative. Shallow living leaves us empty because we are created to need others.

I have found one of the easiest ways to connect is to simply “do life” with others. Serve together. Invest into what is important to another. Gather around a table and share a meal. It doesn’t have to be fancy or perfect, only your time and love are needed by those who sit with you. When you least expect it, if you have made room, the door opens and connection happens.                                                                                         

Making Room 

When I rub shoulders with someone in a kitchen or sit around a campfire together, words come easier. It never happens all at once, but if we are intentional and willing to be vulnerable, one day we will look around and realize those around us, they are our people and life is better because of them.

• How have you made room for vulnerability?
• Who do you have around you?
• Is there a way you can create space for more authentic relationships?

Vulnerability is a sticky, hard and sometimes messy journey, but oh so worth the risk. If these words have been helpful – please share and comment below! 

Blessings-